Loving PARENT

IS:

  • consistent

  • compassionate

  • emotionally balanced

  • fair

  • flexible

  • forgiving

  • just

  • kind

  • loyal

  • loving

  • patient

  • persevering

  • sacrificing

  • self-confident

  • selfless

  • spiritual

  • trustworthy

  • unconditionally loving

DOES:

  • discipline

  • give & earn respect

  • guide

  • give feedback

  • listen

  • nurture

  • play with

  • praise

  • provides:

    --physical needs

    --protection, safely

    --mirroring

    --validation

  • sets:

    --appropriate limits

    --boundaries

    --clear rules

    --fair expectations

  • teaches:

    --@ good relationships

    --right from wrong

    --separation/       

              individuation

    --spiritual truths

    --what ‘normal’ is

Natural CHILD

IS:

   • a survivor

   • adventurous

   • concrete

   • creative

   • curious

   • cute

   • dependent

   • demanding

   • eager to

     --learn

     --please

   • enthusiastic

   • extremist

   • full of wonder

   • funny

   • good mimic

   • grandiose

   • gullible

   • hopeful

   • idealistic

   • imaginative

   • impressionable

   • impulsive

   • ’in the now’

   • innocent

   • insistent

   • intensely emotional

   • joyful

   • literal

   • loving

   • loyal (to a fault)

   • needy

   • noisy

   • nudging

   • playful

   • self-centered

   • smart

   • spontaneous

   • stubborn

   • trusting

   • too truthful

   • uninhibited

   • unrealistic

   • vulnerable

   • wants instant ‘grat’

Healthy Adult

IS:

  • aware of consequences

  • competent

  • dependable

  • fair

  • flexible

  • has good judgement

  • has ‘presence of mind’

  • practical

  • responsible

  • self-protective

  • socially appropriate

KNOWS HOW TO:

  • accepts process

  • assess situations

  • be clear

  • be orderly

  • be realistic

  • co-operate

  • communicate well

  • define a problem

  • evaluate risks

  • follow procedures

  • gather

    --experience

    --information

    --skills

  • implement tasks

  • mediate

  • organize

  • plan

  • prioritize

  • set realistic goals

  • take reasonable risks

  • think logically

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