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SEXUAL ABUSE / INCEST

AFTER EFFECTS - as adults
☹ As a child: hiding, hanging on, cowering in corners, piling things around themselves on bed...(security seeking) ☹ As adults: fearful of being seen, noticed, watched ☹ Blocking out all memory of ages 1-12 ☹ Crying for no overt reason; feelings easily hurt ☹ Depression, sometimes paralyzing ☹ Failure to notice body signals (pain, hunger, tiredness...) ☹ Fear of being alone in the dark, of sleeping alone ☹ Feel dirty, bad seed, ‘marked for life’, guilty, ashamed OR opposite - superior, untouchable, ‘special’ ☹ Need to be invisible, perfect OR perfectly bad ☹ Nightmares, night terrors (threatened, pursued...) ☹ Not at home in ones body - disconnected
☹ Abuse many substances, have several addictions OR total ‘puritan’ ☹ Addicted to any form of excitement (adrenalin junky) ☹ Constant high risk-taking OR taking no risks at all ☹ Emotionally shut down (go into shock) in any time of stress ☹ Live life as victim; also hurt self anytime they get victimized ☹ May become a religious fanatic OR atheist ☹ No sense of personal power, no right to set limits or to say NO ☹ Self-destructive, self-abuse, allow others to harm them ☹ Self-mutilation, cutting, self-carving (pain feels manageable) ☹ Sexually promiscuous OR sexually anorectic ☹ Trust Issues, trust no one OR too trusting, indiscriminately
☹ Compulsive behavior ☹ Don’t take care of self ☹ Fear of losing control ☹ Feel crazy, different ☹ Hysterical symptoms ☹ Obsessive-compulsive ☹ Often in crisis situations ☹ Paranoia ☹ Rigid control of thoughts ☹ Splitting ☹ Various phobias ☹ Weak or no boundaries
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