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SELF-DIAGNOSTIC QUESTIONNAIRE

    These are possible signposts of emotional & behavioral addiction re. your sexual 

    &/or romantic life  (caused by acting out of old emotional traumas).

    If you conclude there’s a problem in this area, you can find help

    from therapy.  Also, for relevant 12-Step Programs, look up

    • SLAA : Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous

    • SA : Sexaholics Anon         (also Al-Anon & CODA)

    • SCA : Sexual Compulsives Anon   ......... for in-person, online or phone meetings.

SEX & LOVE ADDICTION

HAVE YOU: __had sex at inappropriate times & places, &/or with inappropriate people? __had sex with someone (in the past or present) that you didn’t want to do it with? __ever felt you had to have sex? __lost count of the number of partners you’ve had? __had (or are having sex) regardless of possible harmful consequences (threat of being caught, risk of getting STDs, physical danger...)? __ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community - because you pursued an inappropriate sexual partner? __ever had a serious relationship threatened or ruined because of your outside sexual activity? __ever wished you could stop/ control your sexual &/or romantic life for some period of time? 
__ever wished you were a less emotionally dependent person? __ever thought there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by your sexual &/or romantic activities?
DO YOU: __try to control how much sex to have or how often you see someone? __find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know it’s self- destructive? __not want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities - hiding them from friends, family, co-workers, therapists... ? __get ‘high’ from sex &/or romance & then afterwords, do you crash? __make promises or rules for yourself about sex or romance that you can’t keep? __believe that sex &/or a relationship will make your life bearable? __believe that someone can ‘fix’ you? __keep a list of the number of partners you’ve had? __feel desperate or uneasy when you are away from your lover or sexual partner? __feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix or future mate?

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